Thank you to everyone who noticed that Dinner: A Love Story was down all day Friday. It was frustrating, but the sheer number of โI canโt log on!โ messages I received through social media channels warmed my heart. (They read me! They really do!) In addition to the nightmarishly long phone conversations I had to have with my web host, I was forced to scrap my weekly round-up (โthe reading & eatingโ series) even though it was all ready to go. I would just run that round-up today, but given the events of the weekend, I think you probably know that I canโt bring myself to head straight into cheese graters and Super Bowl menus. Like many of you, Iโm disgusted by the Muslim Ban, an executive order that has diminished this country and all we stand for with the stroke of a pen. The outpouring of action โ spontaneous rallies, heroicย judgesย and volunteer lawyers,ย boycotts, marches, postcard-writing mania โ has been inspiring, but I fear we have a long road ahead of us. So before I get back to regularly scheduled programming, Iโd like to follow the lead of two of my favorite food writers,ย Luisa Weissย and Julia Turshenย byย giving away free books*ย to the first ten people who donateย $100 or more to the ACLU. (Forward your receipt to jenny AT dinneralovestory DOT com and tell me which book youโd like. *You can choose not justย mine, butย Luisaโs,ย Juliaโsย or the book ofย any other author or bloggerย who would like to join forces with us.)
Iโll post the weekly round-up in the next few days, but please take a minute to read this storyย โA Clarifying Moment in American History,โย written by a prominent conservative, paying careful attention to the line about educating our children.
UPDATE: You guys are amazing. The ten books (fourteen actually, it was too close to call) are spoken for. But please continue to donate and forward me your ACLU receipts, if only so my faith in the goodness of this country stays strong. Thank you Katharine, Rachael, Rebecca O, Jay, Victoria, Margaret, Suzette, Jennifer, Rebecca C., Erica, Marian, Elise, Kim, and Tiffany.
NOTE
I want to acknowledge the readers who have told me in no uncertain terms that they come to this blog for recipes and dinner strategies and resent the fact that from time to time I use Dinner: A Love Story as a political platform. I hear you on that, and I understand the frustration. But Iโd like to point out that if you click on the โAboutโ section on the top of my home page, itโs been clear from the beginning that I envisioned this space as not only a forum to discuss whatโs for dinner, but also as a place to discuss whatโs happening around the dinner table. In the past seven years, Iโve posted too many chicken recipes to count, but Iโve also written about how to have meaningful conversations over a shared meal; how to raise compassionate kids; how to raise girls with healthy body images; how technology affects our childrensโ development; how to teach them about empathy and gratitude; where we are traveling; what music we are listening to; and close to a hundred posts about what books we are loving โ fiction, nonfiction, kids, YA, adult โ which, you might be surprised to hear, are perennially the most popular/most shared/most visited posts on DALS. (More popular than even Pork Ragu!) Do politics fit in with this list? You might not think so. A year ago, I wouldnโt have thought so. But I hope you understand, given the extraordinary circumstances of this administration, that it has started to feel disingenuous, almost irresponsibleย to write only about pork chops and apple pies without acknowledging a conversation that started 18 months ago at our dinner table (overlapping with many of the topics I hit on above) and shows no sign of stopping.
Lastly, I hope Iโm not naive in believing that we are in a unique position on this blog. I think itโs fair to assume every person reading Dinner: A Love Story wants what is best for their families and their childrensโ futures. Letโs remember that we have more in common than we donโt, and try to prove my tagline correct as we head into the next few tumultuous years: It all begins at the family table.
Reminder: I welcome reactions from every side here, but the same rule applies as always: If you strongly disagree with me, know that I strongly respect your right to disagree, but you must pretend you are at my dinner table sitting across from me when you post your comment. This corner of the Internet is not the Wild West. I will not approve comments that are flagrantly mean-spirited or that do not advance the conversation in a constructive way.
Love the blog and your books. Thank you for not being silent. Our voices matter! Already on an automatic monthly donation to the ACLU ๐
I get really frustrated when people say actors, bloggers, athletes or anyone else in the โentertainmentโ (is that the right word? no offense if not) world should keep their mouths shut โ as if their opinions matter less than the doctors, lawyers and business people of the world because of their profession. I donโt understand why people like you, Meryl Streep or anyone with a line to the masses shouldnโt use the platforms theyโve been given to address what is important in this world and open the discussion. This trend towards โshut your mouthโ is terrifying and a step back to a very dark place. Thank you for using your platform to address what you believe is important and recognizing that its hard to engage in the every day when our world is being turned upside down. I will appreciate your wonderful cookbooks even more now, knowing you are more than an inspiration at the dinner table but also a person who takes action for what she believes. Thanks Jenny!
Thank you for your courage to stand up and speak out. As a small business owner, I fully understand the risks of doing so and I admire your example. I am finding my own voice getting stronger and louder and growing more firm in my belief (by the hour) that we absolutely cannot keep quiet. To remain silent is to be a bystander. Thank you!
I agree 100% with you. You do a fantastic job of stating why politics are relevant to this blog. You have a strong platform that you built and it is your right to use this platform to spread some good. Keep it up! (Pork Ragu for president? 2020?)
You rule so hard! Iโll NEVER quit you. xo
So well written! I agree, this IS a topic to discuss with family. If you canโt discuss with family, then where else can you? And imagine that you once started this blog for you and some friends โ it is still your personal blog. Write what you want. I like it. ๐
I really enjoy these posts! (Frankly, I think there should be a lot more!) I think itโs especially important that people hear the concern of other people with whom they have relationships, who canโt just be written of as โout-of-touch elitesโ or โuneducated folks from fly-over country.โ I would love to donate $100+ to the ACLU but am unable to at this time, instead I signed up as a volunteer with a local immigrant and refugee resettlement charity.
Time is the most precious thing a person can donate!
Thank you so much for your wise, gracious words and spirit. So many times I have turned to your website not only for a dinner idea, but also for flashes of inspiration on how to raise my kids and embody my own beliefs, as you say: starting at the family table. In these troubled times this is even more true, and family dinner isnโt just about whatโs on the menu tonight but about how to talk with our kids about whatโs going on in the world. Itโs a chance to help them understand (at their own level) what all this means to us, in terms of real people, in terms of right and wrongโฆ Thank you for this post, and all the others, you canโt imagine how much they matter.
Thank you thank you thank you
Thank you, Jenny. We have a responsibility to speak up. I appreciate you using your slice of the internet to do so.
Sending nothing but love and support from a Canadian friend.
Love this post. Thank you sharing your thoughts. We all need to be brave and say (politely) what we think โour opinions and actions do matter!
What better place to talk politics (and ethics and morality and other intermingled subjects) than around the table? So go for itโtalk about whatโs important, thereโs no other way in times like these.
Sorry, Iโm not here to thank you. I am a long time reader and well-educated person that follows politics earnestly on a daily basis (before everyone starts lecturing me about whatโs going on in America). I also fully recognize that this is your blog and you can post whatever you like. I also want what is best for my family and children, but I do not agree with your opinions. At all. Unfortunately for me, I was using this blog as a respite from constant political information, but no more. I envision that you are going to continue these posts every chance you get. I wonโt be buying any more of your books, nor am I ever coming back to this site. Good luck to you.
Good Bye!
Well, Iโll just have to buy two of your books then, one for me and one for Dana (Iโll donate hers to a food-focused charity, since she wonโt want it).
Thanks for your comment, Dana โ I appreciate how respectfully written it was. I wish you would not write this blog off completely, as I crave informed people at this table who have a different opinion than mine. Also would like to reiterate that yes, I will be weighing on the headlines, but not โevery chance I get,โ as you suggest. In addition to being a place to discuss important issues, the dinner table needs to be a respite from the dayโs stress. And thereโs a lot of stress these days. Good luck to you.
Thatโs part of whatโs the matter with the world today. If we donโt agree, we donโt want to hear it. Why do you think the way you do? If you would share that, maybe we could all learn something, even if we donโt agree. If you just watch Fox News and read Brietbart (is that how itโs spelled?), you wonโt hear the other side. If we only read and listen to those who agree with us, we donโt see the big picture. We used to be able to hear othersโ opinions and not get angry. What happened to that? But now that you wonโt read from this site, weโll never learn from each other.
I love your blog and books but have never commented. Just want to take this moment to say you do great work. These are in fact the conversations we are having around our dinner table. I may have made one of your recipes, but we are talking about the struggles, conflicts and hatred we see in the world. We are imagining the struggles of others and trying to figure out what we can do about them as we sit at our warm table, eating our own delicious meal. Right now Iโm teaching my kids how to make meaningful change in their world even though Iโm not really sure how to go about that myself. You are right, โit all begins at the family table.โ Keep up the good work and fight the good fight. Our children are watching us!
I think we might be soul sisters. At the very least weโd be great neighbors. Thank you for having the conversations that any conscionable person needs to in these extreme times. My supper club is similarly structured. Instead of family we gather as chosen family and new friends. We sit together and share food and stories. We talk about the cultures connected with the food we are sharing. Family-style. The concept is something we can all relate to and hopefully connect to others through as well.
Your blog is heaven. Thanks for it.
Cheers!
Sunshine
I found your blog through the German food blog, The Wednesday Chef.
Thank you.
Thank you for welcoming us to your table โ I keep coming back to this blog for all of it โ the recipes, menus, book ideas and book reviews, parenting woes and tips, politics and more. Thank you for caring about us.
Thank you. This hangs in our house: โUnder the shelter of others, the people survive.โ We have to take care of each other.
Thank you! The good fight, yeah?
I donโt usually comment but I feel the need to voice my support. Thank you!
Thank you, Jenny! I always come to DALS for comfort (even if Iโm not aware of it in the moment) and this post was especially heartening. xo
Love this post!
Iโm with you Jenny ~ and all of the other โhersโ and good men that were at the womenโs marches in person or in spirit. We will keep the love alive starting in the kitchen and spiraling out from thereโฆ
I am a regular โ have been for years. A large portion of what I cook on a regular basis comes from your website. I visit your site daily and I rely on you to help drive my family meals. But I would be disheartened if you DID NOT take the time to reflect about what is happening in our country and in this world. It is not business as usual. It canโt be. It is too important that we all pay attention to what is happening and do our part to raise awareness, questions, and to shout from the rooftops to express our horror and to protest these atrocities. Thank you for using your platform.