Thank you to everyone who noticed that Dinner: A Love Story was down all day Friday. It was frustrating, but the sheer number of โI canโt log on!โ messages I received through social media channels warmed my heart. (They read me! They really do!) In addition to the nightmarishly long phone conversations I had to have with my web host, I was forced to scrap my weekly round-up (โthe reading & eatingโ series) even though it was all ready to go. I would just run that round-up today, but given the events of the weekend, I think you probably know that I canโt bring myself to head straight into cheese graters and Super Bowl menus. Like many of you, Iโm disgusted by the Muslim Ban, an executive order that has diminished this country and all we stand for with the stroke of a pen. The outpouring of action โ spontaneous rallies, heroicย judgesย and volunteer lawyers,ย boycotts, marches, postcard-writing mania โ has been inspiring, but I fear we have a long road ahead of us. So before I get back to regularly scheduled programming, Iโd like to follow the lead of two of my favorite food writers,ย Luisa Weissย and Julia Turshenย byย giving away free books*ย to the first ten people who donateย $100 or more to the ACLU. (Forward your receipt to jenny AT dinneralovestory DOT com and tell me which book youโd like. *You can choose not justย mine, butย Luisaโs,ย Juliaโsย or the book ofย any other author or bloggerย who would like to join forces with us.)
Iโll post the weekly round-up in the next few days, but please take a minute to read this storyย โA Clarifying Moment in American History,โย written by a prominent conservative, paying careful attention to the line about educating our children.
UPDATE: You guys are amazing. The ten books (fourteen actually, it was too close to call) are spoken for. But please continue to donate and forward me your ACLU receipts, if only so my faith in the goodness of this country stays strong. Thank you Katharine, Rachael, Rebecca O, Jay, Victoria, Margaret, Suzette, Jennifer, Rebecca C., Erica, Marian, Elise, Kim, and Tiffany.
NOTE
I want to acknowledge the readers who have told me in no uncertain terms that they come to this blog for recipes and dinner strategies and resent the fact that from time to time I use Dinner: A Love Story as a political platform. I hear you on that, and I understand the frustration. But Iโd like to point out that if you click on the โAboutโ section on the top of my home page, itโs been clear from the beginning that I envisioned this space as not only a forum to discuss whatโs for dinner, but also as a place to discuss whatโs happening around the dinner table. In the past seven years, Iโve posted too many chicken recipes to count, but Iโve also written about how to have meaningful conversations over a shared meal; how to raise compassionate kids; how to raise girls with healthy body images; how technology affects our childrensโ development; how to teach them about empathy and gratitude; where we are traveling; what music we are listening to; and close to a hundred posts about what books we are loving โ fiction, nonfiction, kids, YA, adult โ which, you might be surprised to hear, are perennially the most popular/most shared/most visited posts on DALS. (More popular than even Pork Ragu!) Do politics fit in with this list? You might not think so. A year ago, I wouldnโt have thought so. But I hope you understand, given the extraordinary circumstances of this administration, that it has started to feel disingenuous, almost irresponsibleย to write only about pork chops and apple pies without acknowledging a conversation that started 18 months ago at our dinner table (overlapping with many of the topics I hit on above) and shows no sign of stopping.
Lastly, I hope Iโm not naive in believing that we are in a unique position on this blog. I think itโs fair to assume every person reading Dinner: A Love Story wants what is best for their families and their childrensโ futures. Letโs remember that we have more in common than we donโt, and try to prove my tagline correct as we head into the next few tumultuous years: It all begins at the family table.
Reminder: I welcome reactions from every side here, but the same rule applies as always: If you strongly disagree with me, know that I strongly respect your right to disagree, but you must pretend you are at my dinner table sitting across from me when you post your comment. This corner of the Internet is not the Wild West. I will not approve comments that are flagrantly mean-spirited or that do not advance the conversation in a constructive way.
This is just IT. Thank you for putting this into words so beautifully and clearly, Jenny.
Jenny, just a note to let you know I strongly support ALL of your posts. Your blog is like an interesting dinner party โฆ or picnic โฆ or conversation at the bar with fun apps. Keep on keeping on. Jessica
I appreciate your speaking up and out. Itโs your blog, you should write about what YOU want to write about. It was extra nice of you to be extra respectful to all readers, of course:).
Well done on speaking out. Always enjoy DALs especially the โlifeโ posts. Keep it up.
YES. as Iโve been telling all of my friends who, like me, have previously barred politics from the list of acceptable topics: we need to speak up! your voice is strong and it matters. Your honesty and transparency is inspiring and empowering and makes me love your recipes that much more. Please keep it up! (And thank goodness your daughters have a Mom like you.)
Thank you for this post and for all that you doโฆ These past few weeks have been so difficult, I used to love listening to the news and feeling hopeful as I cooked dinner, but now, not so much. Cooking for my family and trying new recipes is what is keeping me going these days, and your newest book has come at just the right time! It has become my most treasured cookbook. (thatโs saying a lot, since my copy of DALS is completely falling apart from use : ) ) We celebrated being a part of the Womenโs March/my momโs 70th with your Mud Cake โ it felt really special for such a hopeful day! We are already looking forward to making it again in a couple of weeks for my daughterโs 3rd birthday. She keeps asking when sheโs gonna get her โlolly cakeโ.
So thanks so much for this post, for holding tight to your beliefs and not being afraid to share, for your recipes and stories, for providing my little family with new treats to celebrate with, and just for keeping onโฆ. ! You are truly appreciated! *sarah
I really appreciate this post and subscribe your political outlook, too. There are plenty of dinner/cooking/family bloggers that I donโt feel have a similar life or beliefs to mine, and I read them until I canโt anymore. Your blog is refreshing. By the way, I have your celebrate everything book and make the granola twice a week.
I so appreciate this post and the fact that you are speaking up. It is far too important to be quiet. I hope and pray that things turn around and move in a positive direction, but having a leader who campaigned hate and belittled all who are different from him terrifies me. The fact that so many are supporting this platform terrifies me. I have read โHow to Celebrate Everythingโ cover to cover and am grateful to you for sharing your secrets for making memories and rituals with your kids. (We had a pancake cake for my 4 year oldโs birthday last week โ genius and delicious! my new favorite tradition!) Reading your book felt like someone giving me the most precious secrets for making the most of these years that are going too fast already. You have become a great inspiration to me โ and I am sure many more โ and by not sitting back and letting the fear of insulting others or losing readership is noble and selfless. Please keep doing what youโre doing!
Youโve got to be kiddingโฆ.
I am a long time ready of DALS and I 100% agree with you. Every family and every person in this country is affected by what our government thinks and does and we should be discussing it regularly-no matter what side of an issue you are on-the conversation is important and essential to every person who resides in the USA.
I admire you for sharing your point of view. To not do so in such times would be disingenuousโฆit is not business as usual, and itโs important to speak up.
Iโve quit reading most of the other blogs I visit because right now I just canโt stomach posts talking about new lipstick colors, or the โmust have outfit for springโ. This is a scary time and it makes me feel a little better to know that you are having the same worries that I have. Thank you for your honesty.
Thank you for this post and for all your posts.
Thank you Jenny! I 100% support in talking about what you want to talk and what you talk about around your dinner party. Your blog = your conversation starter.
I have donated twice to the ACLU (and many other wonderful non profits) since November 8. Will continue my support and my fight too! Thank you!!! (I still think your In the Bank salad dressing is the best ever!)
Agree and thank you! Love your food writing but in such a time as this we canโt always ignore what is swirling around us. This Fall and winter have been game changers for many of us. I marched, at 58 years old, in my first march, in San Francisco with my oldest son and his husbandโฆ.because yes, we just have to put our foot down sometimes and say โListen to us! We are here and weโre not going away!โ That spurred some activism that continues and will at least through these painful next 4 years. We MUST stay VOCAL and strong and persistent! Pleaseโฆ.keep it up.
The reason I read your blog is BECAUSE of everything else you post! Keep it up!
Thank you. First time commentor. I have read your blog for years, bought your first book, and use your recipes first as a single person now as a young working mom. My family are immigrants and refugees from Asia and Latin America. I sometimes feel a bit alienated reading food and lifestyle blogs because theyโre typically written by white women. Your recent posts about politics, the state of our nation and how youโre navigating it with your family resonate deeply with me. They feel so real and human. I feel more connected as a reader. You have a fan for life!
You rock. If only the whole internetโฆthe whole world (gasp)โฆcould agree to your dinner table rule. !
So many YESes to this!!! Iโve started unfollowing blogs/IG accounts/etc who have remained suspiciously silent. Iโm so thrilled your blog isnโt one of them! This is definitely not a time for silence.
I support President Trump, and I respect your right to speak your mind. It is, indeed, YOUR blog.
A-men. Amen. Amen.