Iโm so excited to write these words: You are looking at my next book, How to Celebrate Everything, which will be published on September 20, 2016.
I know Iโm prone to overstatement, but when I say this is the most meaningful project Iโve ever worked on, Iโm not lying. (And yes, I realize Iโm saying this as somebody who can find deep meaning in a braised pork butt and a U12 soccer roster.)
I started writing How to Celebrate Everything three years ago because of a vague, nagging feeling that my familyโs jam-packed days were flying by too fast, disappearing behind me like a jet trail, and I wasnโt doing a whole lot to stop, turn off the phone, clear the family calendar and remind myself โHey! This is not a race to the finish line. This is it.โ My daughters were about 10 and 11 at the time, and I began obsessing: What am I holding on to? What are my kids holding on to? Do they feel connected to their family? Their community? Am I running out of time to figure all this out? (I always think of my friend Jodi who once asked me โDo you ever feel like these are our practice kids, and any day now the real ones are going to come along?โ Yes! Yes! Yes!)
Mostly, though, it came down to this: How do we slow down to make sure our kids are recognizing moments that matter.
The answer of course, is there is no answer. How can we really ever know what is sticking? As parents, we do our best and hope for the best and for God sakes isnโt it enough to just get a freaking pork chop on the dinner table every now and then? But most of you know me by now. You know I like to pretend I have control over things that I have no business whatsoever controlling (Exhibit A: Dinner Diary) and also that I like to drag all you guys right down that path with me.
So here is the strategy Iโve come up with and wrapped up between two covers and bound with a Liberty-cotton flowery spine:ย Savor Family Rituals.ย Optimize Family Holidays. Celebrateย Everything.
And whenever possible, do all this with food, just to be sure people show up.
When I say โcelebrate everything,โ I mean the biggies, ofย course.ย In my book, youโll find recipes and stories and all kinds of ways to infuse both meaning and deliciousness into major holidays. Youโll find recipes for your Thanksgiving turkey, your Easter ham, your Friday night challah. (Yes, both. Trust me.) You will find menus to help you plan Fourth of July barbecues and New Yearโs Eve feasts and killer birthday parties that your kids and your kidsโ friends will look forward to all year long.
But the heart of this book lies in family rituals, in the less obvious, but way more personal ways we find meaning and connectedness in day-to-day life with kids. For our family that means walking to the farmerโs market every Saturday to collect the ingredients for a tomato sandwich; it means serving creamy, soothing mashed potatoes after every brutal braces-tightening session; it means making a huge-ass breakfast on birthday mornings complete with candle-studded chocolate chip pancakes; it means writing poems for graduations, weddings, first birthdays and other milestone moments; it means dinner at our neighborโs house every time thereโs a snowstorm; or pizza and sushi at the coachโs house at the end of a triumphant (or even not-so-triumphant) season.
These are our family rituals, but you get the idea. What I hope to illustrate in How to Celebrate Everything isย how family rituals do not have to have their own Hallmark aisle or be accompanied by a six-course bacchanalia in order to be meaningful. They donโt have to be perfect and they donโt have to be huge. They just have to be yours.
Of course, having good food around to lock in the memories does not exactly hurt. So naturally, the book contains 100+ recipes, all of which are attached to traditions and moments, big and small. And because I canโt seem to publish a book without โdinnerโ in the title, youโll also find an entire section devoted to the ritual that really started it all: The family meal.
OK โ time to let the rituals (and the food attached to those rituals) do some talking. Hereโs a little teaser of the bookโฆ
Sleepover Breakfasts! Every time we have a sleepover guest, we try to go all out on the breakfast front. On our best days, this means warm popovers with homemade strawberry jam. But it also means apple fritters, chocolate chip pancakes and buttermilk biscuits.
Birthdays and Parties. We have about two dozen birthday parties under our belts at this point in our livesโฆand weโve lived to tell! The book offers a stay-sane at-home party guide, complete with theme ideas, cake recipes, and lunch ideas (like these subs) that openly and deliciously defy the law of There Must Be Pizza.
Fourth of July with Cousinsย The most addictive sweet-and-smoky barbecue chicken stars in an Independence Day feast, which we do every year with my brother, sister, and all the (adorable, but truly insane) cousins. Also on the menu: Crowdpleaser Slaw, German Potato Salad. (Youโre on your own for the sโmores.)
Only Child Night. For the past few summers, itโs worked out that our two daughters are at sleepaway camps during two different weeks, so itโs become something of a tradition for the child left behind to be in charge of dinner ideas. Here, Abby makes homemade gnocchi, a dish her sister wouldnโt eat if she was stranded in Siberia with no prospects of a nourishment for weeks. Naturally, itโs Abbyโs favorite.
The Walk to the Farmerโs Market. For as long as I can remember, weโve used the weekend farmerโs market as a way to tear the kids away from morning TV, get out of their PJs, and get outside. Soccer schedule permitting, we walk there every Saturday, then spend the rest of the day living off the bounty weโve assembled. Shown here, easy Strawberry-Almond-Milk smoothies, but this section of the book is PACKED with fresh, easy, memorable menu ideas, all inspired by our lower Hudson Valley farmerโs market.
Eating Dinner in Front ofย the TV. Yes, you read that right. Obviously Iโm a big believer in having the TV off during dinner. But I am an even BIGGER believer in breaking some rules every now and then, especially when a Big Event is on TV โ think World Series, Presidential Election, World Cup. (Sponge Bob Christmas Special? Not so much.) On those nights, itโs practically a command: You must watch this event with the rest of the world, you must eat Super Nachos with stewed chicken and all the fixings, and you must do so with your fingers.
Apres-Ski Dinners. I am a world-class wimp on the slopes, but I like to think I make up for that in the apres-ski portion of the program, beginning with this Chickpea Pizza with Broccolini and Salamiโฆ
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..And ending with theseย Sweet-and Sour Meatballs with Polenta. Possibly the best recipe Iโve ever developed.
The Rosaโs Mud Cake Traditionย Longtime DALS readers will recognize this cake, which no birthday of mine is complete without. In the book, I share a half dozen new ways (and new excuses) to serve it, including as a base for Phoebeโs favorite ice cream cake, a heart-shaped Valentineโs Day treat, and this double-layered and fudge-frosted beauty decorated with dum-dums. Yes, dum-dums.
{But FYI, in between rituals and recipesโฆ.you will also find mantras. Like this one about mashed potatoes, which informs my 14-year-oldโs entire life.}
The Bake-A-Gift Ritual. This looks like just a regular old coffee cake, but ohhhh itโs so much more. Itโs a riff โ a really deliciously accurate riff โ on a famous Entenmanโs treat that my dad and I used to obsess over. The learning here: You can never go wrong when you bake a store-bought favorite from scratch and present it as a gift.
One guiding principle of Vacation Rituals: Try to get as far away from your daily life and routine as possible. Hence: Coke with dinner. Pop Tarts for breakfast. Ice Cream every. single. day.
The Dogโs Half Birthday! Just kidding, we donโt celebrate that. (Though maybe we should!) I just wanted an excuse to show my beautiful, batty Boston terrier, Iris, largely ignored these past six years on the blog and in the books, but who now finally gets her day in the sun.
Holiday Parties. I know itโs hard to think about latkes this time of year, but itโs good to know theyโre in there, right? Related: So are โinterfaith slides.โ Again, trust me.
Sunday Dinners. Family Dinners. Easy Dinners. Just because this is the first book Iโve written where the word โdinnerโ is relegated to the subtitle, does not mean I wouldnโt include recipes for our most cherished ritual of all, including these pork lettuce rolls with pomegranate seeds and apples.
Iโd be remiss if I didnโt mention that all these beautiful photos were shot by the gifted and talented Chelsea McNamara Cavanaugh, and styled by my genius friend Victoria Granof.
Much much more to come, you can be sure of it! For now,ย How to Celebrate Everything is available for pre-order from all the usual suspects: Amazon, Barnes & Noble, iBooks, and Indiebound. ThankyouthankyouthankyouTHANKYOU for your support.
I love this! Iโm so glad I find this link on A Cup of Jo. What a wonderful idea for a book and like you, I am a huge fan of creating family traditions with my husband and two daughters (ages 6 and 9). Iโm inspired by this post. Thank you.
I canโt wait to get your new book. Just reading this post brought tears to my eyes. Family rituals matter! (And food is not bad either!)
Iโm so excited! Just pre-ordered it! We love all your work! Even my 14-year-old will pull out DALS just to read it.
AHHH! I am obsessed with this! I can not wait to read it!! Would you mind emailing us an address we could send you one of our shirts? We are just two best friends who started a tiny etsy shop where we make shirts that, you guessed it, inspire celebrating! You are the most perfect role model for our motto and brand and we would love to send your family some shirts!!
Congrats! I love your cookbooks and I am always trying to remind myself to start family traditions to make ordinary occasions feel more festive. Canโt wait to get some much needed inspiration from the book.
P.S. Does this mean we have to wait until September for the sweet and sour meatballs recipe?
GAH!! This gives me the warms and fuzzies just reading about it! Can I pre-order in Canada? I wantโฆno, MUST have it as soon as humanly possible!! ๐
Sounds like another hit โ canโt wait!!
Done, done and done. This is so exciting! Congratulations on the new book.
I just pre-ordered this. Your book gave me an idea: what if, every year, when Iโm buried & working (uphill, in the snow) the first weeks of school (I teach 8th Grade), I send myself a book that reminds me to celebrate EVERYTHING? Including learning 200 kids names, gifts, challenges, and quirks? I like it. Thank you!
I just pre-ordered! Iโm so excited because your rituals posts are always my favoritesโฆ Canโt wait! Please come to northern Virginia or DC for a book signing โ you have lots of working mom fans here
Hi there!!! 3 year old birthday party soon-do you already have a recipe for that sub recipe or a source for it? Thanks-love the blog already!!!
I canโt wait for September for this little present to myself to arrive! Thanks for consistently putting out such insightful, relevant and engaging material for all of us readers. Excited to add it to my DALS collection!
On vacation in London and I woke up feeling guilty about all the junk weโve been eating (guilt mainly focused on what weโve been letting our six year old eat) and guilt led to plans in my head to do better on our last few days here.
Guilt all gone no now. Thank you for snapping me out of it. Of course we should eat ice cream everday while on vaction โ duh!
OF COURSE YOU SHOULD! Guilt be GONE!
JennyโฆI do not know what to say other than I cannot wait. I have been so busy I have not had time to browse the site, but so glad I did todayโฆ pre ordering now!!
Happy Summerโฆ
That is AWESOME. Thank you Jenn!!!!
wow! i am so excited by this! the photos are some of the best I have ever seen. very inspiringโฆ
I just shared a few recipes on my blog too, if anyone wants to have a look.
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quite excited too
looking forward to your next book! We have an annual ritual; โblue cakeโ in August for Percy Jacksonโs birthday.
Jenny โ You are amazing! I cannot WAIT to read this. I still read DALS, cover-to-cover, like a novel, on occasion just for fun. (On top of using all of your books in my regular rotation of dinner menus.) Congratulations, and my best to you and your sweet family!
iโm tearing up / SO excited!
Mama of a 2 & 6 year old girls and it already feels like it all needs to just SLOW DOWN already! Your Dinner A Love Story cookbook & recipes have changed our family dinner lives and I bet this special one will too ๐ Cannot WAIT! Thank you for this book! ๐
happy summer!
at 18 and 20 my sons are aging out of the family dinner every nightโฆbut I love your recipes and canโt wait for your next book
Looking forward to getting my hands on this!!!!
Love your books and recipes. Canโt wait!