I donโt think a day goes by that I donโt call up about a line that Lisa Belkin wrote in the New York Times two or three years ago. In an article about overparenting and the self-esteem generation used to getting praise at every turn, she asked Are we raising kids who are prepared for college, but not for life? I think about it when my 8-year-old refuses to tie her cleats by herself because she likes the way her parents tie them tighter. I think about it when I read about Ramona walking to kindergarten by herself (or maybe with Henry) while we have a really hard time letting our 10-year-old walk home from a friendโs house around the corner. I think about it when Iโm reading about 11-year-old Laura Ingalls helping Pa turn straw bundles into kindling in sub-zero blizzard conditions duringย The Long Winter. I think about itย when I see my daughtersโ ballerina classmates twisting up their own buns (complete with hair net and bobby pins), when I am picking up their rooms, and hanging their wet towels, and reminding them to pack their homework, and on โSteakhouse Nightโ when Iโm cutting their filets into teeny tiny pieces because if left to their own devices theyโd probably shove Buick-sized chunks into their mouths. Or at least thatโs what I think theyโd do. Since Iโve never trusted them to cut their own steak, I donโt really know what theyโd do. And even though I wish I was a different kind of parent, the way things are going, I donโt think Iโm going to find out any time soon.
Steakhouse Night
โSteakhouse Nightโ includes about 2 pounds of filet, Andyโs no-cream creamed spinach, and pretty much always takes place on a Saturday night. The only variable is the potato dish. This past weekend we did a rosti (or, as Abby calls it โthe hugest potato pancake everโ) but nothing should stop you from switching it up with twice-baked potatoes or oven fries.
Grilled Steak
Generously salt and pepper four steak filets. Grill over medium-high heat about 5-6 minutes a side (depending on thickness) until meat is firm but not rock hard. Cut into microscopic pieces if serving to a child under 21.
Potato Rosti (or โHugest Potato Pancake Everโ as Abby calls it)
This is the kind of thing you donโt really need a recipe for. If you have two or three baking potatoes you can make a thicker rosti; if you only have one, it will work fine, too. Just be sure to add the potatoes to the pan as quickly as possible after shredding to prevent the potatoes from turning brown. But if it does turn brown, fear not, theyโll still taste as good. They just wonโt look as golden.
1 to 2 baking potatoes, peeled
1/4 to a 1/3 ย small onion
salt and pepper
vegetable oil and butter
Using a grater or the shredding attachment on a food processor, shred your potatoes and onion into a large bowl. If you have time, take a paper towel or dishtowel and pat the potatoes to soak up as much moisture as you can. Add salt and pepper and toss. (You can also get creative with add-ins here โ herbs, shredded cheese, etc.)
In a cast iron skillet over medium-low heat, add a tablespoon of vegetable oil and a tablespoon of butter. Add potatoes to the pan, spreading and pressing flat so it looks like a large pancake. Let sit for 8 to 10 minutes until the edges look golden and crispy.
Place a large plate on top of the skillet and, working carefully, invert pan so cake flips onto plate. Add a little more butter and oil to skillet and slide the cake back into pan, uncooked side down. Cook another 8-10 minutes until cooked through. Cut into wedges and serve.
Creamed Spinach
Thaw a box or a bag ofย frozen spinachย by placing it in a colander and running warm water over it for a few minutes. Press down on the spinach to squeeze out all the liquid. In a small frying pan over medium heat, add olive oil and a half a largeย onionย (chopped), salt, pepper, a fewย red pepper flakesย (optional, as always). After about 5 minutes, add spinach and toss with onions until spinach is heated through. Sprinkle 1 to 2 teaspoons of flour (this will prevent curdling of milk in next step) and stir. Add about 1/3 to 1/2 cup ofย milkย (lowfat, 1%, wholeโฆany kind but chocolate!) depending on how creamy you like your creamed spinach, and a pinch of freshly groundย nutmeg. Stir until heated through and serve.
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Canโt wait to try this delicious pancake! Can you recommend a food processor (brand/type)? Iโve been weighing this investment for ages โ would it be used enough to justify space constraints? Thanks
Andrea โ I have the Cuisinart Pro-Custom 11, but I actually wrote a story for Real Simple about food processors a few years ago. Hereโs the link:
http://ow.ly/a1mwS
I have the same woes about my daughter not being able to put her hair in a bun for dance. My oldest is 10 years old and just sits there staring at me with those very sad eyesโฆ until I break down and put the bun in myself. She needs major motivations in many ways. It drives me crazy at times! My 3 year old on the other hand wants to do EVERYTHING by herself.
I was just thinking about creamed spinach this morning. Thanks for the recipe!
The first paragraph sounds like a read from Free Range Kids, which I also enjoy.
Several things hit home about this post.
1) I thought I was the only one who thinks about Ramona walking to school as I dress my 6 1/2 year old! He still does not do it without tears, goading and threats. I imagine myself picking his clothes out in high school.
2) I love that you have steakhouse night, great idea! We are once a year lovers of House of Prime Rib, so why not do it at home?
3) That potato pancake made me want to lick my screen. Gross, but true.
4) I need a new Cuisinart and my birthday is a month away, I think I know what I am asking for.
that potato pancake looks awesome- i can see it quickly becoming a family favorite in my house.
all that worrying got ME worrying: i worry that my daughter will be the one at dance with no bun in her hair at all because neither one of us knows how to do it! ๐
I think about these same things, especially when I recall babysitting a family of three girls who were 5, 3 and 1โฆwhen I was 9! I couldnโt imagine letting my ten year old babysit anyone, let alone three kids.
Love the rosti!
I have a question about the creamed spinach โ can you freeze it once it is made? I always seem to have heaps left over.
Oh w0w-Iโm right there with you!! Including the ballet buns! (And why do I keep doing the bun, when other moms donโt even seem to be worried, sending their girls in with just ponies, even though there is a sign in the dressing room, โAll girls must have bunsโฆโ ) Nice to know Iโm not alone, even on the room clean up. Seriously, every Sunday night I think, โThis is the weekโฆโ Thanks for your great blog-love it!
That spinach sounds delish, canโt wait to try it!
My 11 year old looked at me like I was crazy last night when I tried to cut her pot roast. Sometimes we are our own worst enemy. But on the flip side there are a lot of 8 yr olds out there (including mine) that can operate an ipad, cell phone and computer better than me. So I guess we are doing something right??
Right, Vicki!
I think itโs time you trust them to cut their steaks and see what happens ๐
I also struggle constantly about trying to make sure Iโm MAKING them do things. And there are so many things I did as a child I wonโt let mine do. And yet โ at a small neighborhood restaurant a few weeks ago with my parents, I let my daughter go to the restroom by herself. My mother nearly DIED. Swore she never would have let us do such a thing. My daughter is a first grader. Who knows how to do it just right!? LOL. Also Iโm excited about the creamed spinach as mine is ready for picking now.
Jessica โ That made me laugh. Letting them go to the restroom on their own in a restaurant is one of the few things I let them do โ as long as I can see the bathroom door and know where all the exits are. My parents are the same and yet, I was riding my bike to school by myself when I was my daughterโs age.
Sigh. I hear you Oh how I hear you! I love how you said โat least thatโs what I thing theyโd doโ โ I think I spent far too much time imagining what horrors might befall my kiddo โ time that would be far better spent teaching her to DO stuff!
Funny, just came home from the first pre-swim team work out of the season to husbandโs grilled steak ( sun in Seattle today!) and before I had a chance to cut up the steak as usual for him, my 9 year old son dove right in and cut it himself. He couldnโt wait and did it pretty well on his own. Hunger beat unwillingness or maybe he grew up a bit over the winter. Whichever, my husband winked at me while it was happening and maybe someday we will look back wishing he was still too young to do things for himself, but not tonight!
I read and enjoyed โThe Blessing of the Skinned Kneeโ by Wendy Mogel. It helped. When I finished it, I started letting my daughter be at the park by herself after school โ half a block away and we both had walkie talkies, but it was a start!
Ha ha ha ha! I was just yesterday in the ballet studio frantically doing my 11 yr. oldโs bun per her perfectionist standards and right next to us is a 9 yr. old expertly doing her own. And I whispered, โI think itโs time you start doing your own bunโฆlook at Shelbyโฆsheโs only 9!โ And my daughter said, โBut when Iโve tried to do it itโs too loose โ YOU do it the best!โ