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Congratulations, By the Way

By May 24, 2014May 28th, 2014322 Comments

I know, right?ย What am I doing posting on a Saturday nightย โ€” during a holiday weekend no less? Well, the truth is, last night I woke up in a hot sweat thinking that there might be someone out there who has not readย Congratulations, By The Way, the book version of George Saundersโ€™ now-famous convocation speech given last June at Syracuse University. And if that is indeed the case, I felt the need to remedy the situation immediately. I know we here at DALS tend to get hyperbolic when the subject is Saunders (author of theย award-winning short-story collectionย Tenth of Decemberย andย one of theย original DALS guest-posters), but diehard readers know why. His writing is big-hearted and generous; his capacity for empathy, seemingly endless. What he regrets most in life, Saunders tells graduating seniors, areย failures of kindness.

I believe that by handingย Congratulationsย to a graduate or a friend, you are handing them not just a book, but a message, a philosophy, a worldview.

Hereโ€™s one of my favorite moments in the speech:

And so, a prediction, and my heartfelt wish for you: as you get older, your self will diminish and you will grow in love.ย Youย will gradually be replaced byย love. If you have kids, that will be a huge moment in your process of self-diminishment. You really wonโ€™t care what happens toย you, as long as they benefit. Thatโ€™s one reason your parents are so proud and happy today. One of their fondest dreams has come true: you have accomplished something difficult and tangible that has enlarged you as a person and will make your life better, from here on in, forever.

We like the message of this book so much we bought it for every graduating senior in our townโ€™s high school. (Itโ€™s a tiny class and we got a discount since โ€” full disclosure here โ€” Andy is the editor, so we may not beย quiteย as kind as Iโ€™m making us out to be.) And we want to start spreading the word in your corner of the world, too. So weโ€™re giving away ten copies this weekendโ€ฆas in right now! Itโ€™s going to be a little different this time, though โ€” there will be five winners total, and each winner will receive two copies, one for you, and, in the spirit of kindness, one to hand to someone who you love.ย Contest ends Memorial Day at 5:00 ET. ย Comment below to be eligible. Good luck!
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How do you know a book is gift-worthy? When itโ€™s designed and illustrated by Chelsea Cardinal, thatโ€™s how!
Contest Update: All the winners have been notified. Congrats to Nicola (198), Amy (216), Liesel (238), Nina (272), and Sarah (295). Thanks to everyone who played!

322 Comments

  • Avatar Bearsmama says:

    Canโ€™t wait to read this.:) Thanks for the giveaway!

  • Avatar Kim says:

    Would love to share this with my late brotherโ€™s son. I am so proud of the challenges my nephew has overcome but I donโ€™t know him as well as I would like and this would be a lovely way to connect.

  • Avatar Jess says:

    I can think of so many people who would benefit from this messageโ€ฆ including, far too often, myself.

  • Avatar Erin says:

    sounds like a great book!

  • Avatar Lauren says:

    Thank you for sharing this. Looking forward to reading it!

  • Avatar Mandy says:

    My baby sister is graduating in a couple of weeks (and I teach high school). This book looks incredible! Thanks for hosting the giveaway! Canโ€™t wait for your next cookbook to come out!

  • Avatar Christina says:

    Yay! I loved this speech when I read it way back when you posted a link to it the first time around. Loved it!

  • Avatar Kathleen Hagerty says:

    The post brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for sharing this. No matter what will get a book for my daughterโ€™s college graduation next year from Johns Hopkins and even for my sons from pre school! xo found cute pics from Honey Adams and you were so tiny and precious!

  • Avatar Amy says:

    This sounds amazing! As a mom to two very little guys, I get this. Canโ€™t wait to read and share.

  • Avatar Reynaul says:

    This is too awesome! Great looking book!

  • Jen @ Cuddles and Chaos says:

    So funny! I was just writing academic marketing copy for this book and thinking that it sounded so good. Small world!

  • Erin says:

    As a big fan of Saundersโ€™ work, Iโ€™m a big fan of this!

  • Avatar Rena says:

    Great gift idea!

  • Avatar Carla says:

    Love it!

  • Avatar Amy says:

    I would love to gift this to my graduating 8th grader. Thanks for highlighting, even on a Saturday on a holiday weekend!

  • Avatar Jessica says:

    I keep coming back to that phrase โ€œfailures of kindness.โ€ Man, does that pack a punch.

  • Avatar rachel says:

    You all are so cute. And the best.

  • Avatar Christine says:

    This is such a thoughtful idea! I love this speech โ€“ what a gift to be able to share it with others:-)

  • Avatar Laura K says:

    Love this and will likely buy if I donโ€™t win! Thanks for sharing!

  • Avatar Marianne A. says:

    I have been wanting to read this speech since hearing about it this time last year. Oh, and I am a Syracuse grad, class of โ€™87.

  • cck says:

    As I lay here, propped up in a hospital bed, I realize I so need this book. My two babes โ€“ one almost two and one almost eleven weeks โ€“ are at home with their poppa and have no idea whatโ€™s going on, what an acetabular fracture is, or what โ€œcar accidentโ€ means. All I know is I have a whole host of people to give this book to โ€” folks who have covered us in grace and help and casseroles. Staring down four more months until I can put weight on a right leg, I feel like *I* should be ordering this one in bulk. Thanks!

  • Avatar Katie says:

    I just graduated college today and would love to read this and pass it on to a friend.

  • Avatar joy says:

    Thanks so much for offering this giveaway!

  • Avatar Nolo says:

    As a college professor, I would love to be able to share this with some graduating seniors.

  • Avatar Lindsay says:

    What a great giveaway! Thanks!

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